| Dear Carolyn: About two months ago, my college girlfriend dumped me and described me as a “martyr” — I took on a lot of things when I didn’t have to, and would complain about them later (related to work and parent’s divorce). She also said it “felt natural” because of graduation. We are currently friendly, but we share a friend group and several of my roommates next year are close friends with her, meaning she is not yet out of my life. I adore her and miss her dearly. Even though I should move on, I still hold onto hope that one day we can rekindle. My plan is to improve myself — not for her, but for me, I am in therapy discussing coping mechanisms — and just hope that one day we can try again. Is this hope worth it? — Is It Over? | 
