| Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared Aug. 12, 2011. Hi, Carolyn: I just met my boyfriend’s ex and was pretty blown away — she is beautiful like a model and perfect in every obvious way (funny, they have great chemistry, she’s smart and about to become a doctor). No problem, he broke up with her for a reason, right? Well, actually, it turns out the reason the relationship ended was that he was constantly insecure she was GOING to break up with him, and she got tired of reassuring him. My boyfriend also said he never worries about that with me because I’m more of a “real girl.” Read: not strikingly beautiful, not likely to dump him for something better. I’m sure that’s not how he meant it to come across, but that’s what I interpreted, and now I’m the one who is insecure. I wish I hadn’t met the ex at all. Any suggestions? — Anonymous |
