| Dear Carolyn: I’m a straight man, and I’ve known my closest friend, a straight woman, for the past two years. We started off as fellow regulars in some neighborhood groups, became friends and we flirted with becoming more about a year ago. However, eventually we settled into a close platonic friendship.Not that there’s an offer on the table, but I have reasons why I don’t think we should go out. She doesn’t want kids and I do is the easiest reason to never try to convince myself otherwise. She also drinks more than I think is healthy and has a history of infidelity (nothing while I’ve known her). And she has some strange emotional habits. I hope she can get it together for a relationship, but it would be a leap of faith to be her test case! Nevertheless, she’s been a consistent source of fun and hilarity, community making and weird, delightful conversations. Lately, she’s been the person I’ve talked to about a health scare, when I have an extra ticket for things, etc. I brought her soup and flowers when she was sick. You get the idea… |
