| Dear Carolyn: The first grandchild on both sides of the family is due in three months. My son and his wife have informed me they want to bond privately for a month before allowing any visitors. I asked if I could make the six-hour drive just to meet the baby — even offering to stay in a hotel — but they refused. I explained that experienced mothers traditionally support new parents with meals, laundry and other chores, but they are insisting on total privacy. They clarified this is not related to concerns about germs. I am truly, deeply hurt. We have a good relationship otherwise, so I am baffled by this decision. Is this a new trend fueled by social media? Friends have suggested the new parents are likely to call for help within a week. If they do, then I want to be supportive, but I cannot upend my life on their whim. Of course, if it was an emergency I would go immediately. How do I get over my disappointment and hurt feelings? — Baffled and Bruised Grandma-to-Be | 
