| We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below. Dear Carolyn: My husband and I have always kept our finances separate. This was something I insisted upon as soon as we started dating seriously. My mother impressed upon me from an early age that women need to be financially independent. We each pay 50 percent of the mortgage and utilities and 100 percent of our own expenses like our clothing or hobbies. I thought this was working out fine, but recently I was shocked to learn that my husband is literally a multimillionaire. I knew he has gotten raises and the company he works for has done very well for several years, but I didn’t realize he has also been getting a significant percentage of his compensation as company stock. The stock has skyrocketed. He says he never told me because I’ve always been the one who wanted separate finances, but I feel like he’s been hiding something important from me. He could sell enough stock to pay off our mortgage and have millions left over, and he says he’s not going to do that. He seems to plan to just let his stock sit there, when it could change his life and, yes, my life. I know the separate finances were my idea, but wasn’t it disingenuous of him not to tell me about such a significant change? I feel like I should have been looped in, and I should be allowed at least some say in how all this money is used. — Secret Millionaire’s Wife | 
