This week, Tony took the "What can I do?" question seriously and did something different about a situation he noticed.

We had fallen into this habit of talking to each other from different rooms.

So Tony started coming into my office to actually look me in the eyes while we talked.

And it truly made us feel so much more connected. (Even our daughter noticed the change!)

But here's the thing that made it work:

• He did not wait for life to slow down before trying this.
• He did not wait for me to make the first move, even though we both knew we had fallen into the habit together.
• And he did not announce what he was doing. He just did it.

This is exactly what we mean when we say small things can make a huge impact on your intimacy.

And that's why this week, we're talking about how you can amplify your connection.

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Your 6 Pillars Episode Takeaways

You don't have to start from zero.

• Most marriages don't need a full reset... just one thing to focus on and amplify.

Small moments can become a connection multiplier.

• Pick one pillar at a time and see what happens.

Don't wait for your spouse to take action.

• Ask "What can I do?" and start today.

Top Resources Mentioned in Today's Episode

• ​The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program​
• ​Join Intimacy Mastery Today​
• ​Apply for Coaching With Alisa​

This idea of amplification came from one of our 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaches in training, while we were talking through a scenario we hear all the time:

A couple who feels like roommates and just does not enjoy each other anymore.

So many couples think they have to start from zero and fix everything at once.

But what if something is already there, just waiting to be amplified?

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Love you guys,
Tony & Alisa

The 2027 6 Pillars at Sea Marriage Getaway is officially sold out.

We are so grateful that we will be joined by 30 couples aboard Royal Caribbean’s Allure of the Seas for 7 nights of connection, conversation, and intentional time focused on marriage.

To every couple who said yes, thank you.

We’re honored you’re choosing to invest in your marriage with us, and we’re looking forward to being together in April 2027.

The Skill That Saved Our Marriage

No marriage is immune from conflict.

But there is nothing that sucks the life out of a marriage quite like constant bickering, unresolved tension, or the same argument showing up again and again.

Early in our marriage, we discovered that we had very different communication styles.

Alisa would withdraw or shut down during disagreements. Tony would push harder to solve the issue, which only made Alisa want to flee more.

Sound familiar?

The truth is, we didn’t know how to resolve our differences.

We were never taught how.

Were you?

If there had been a class on handling conflict in those early days, we would have taken it.

Because after almost 30 years of marriage and 16+ years of coaching couples, we know this for sure:

Conflict resolution is a skill that can be learned.

Inside the Conflict Cycle Workshop, you’ll discover how to:

• See what’s really happening during your conflict cycle
• Understand why one spouse shuts down while the other pushes harder
• Identify the hot buttons and patterns that keep creating distance
• Know when to stop, reflect, and redirect before things spiral
• Regroup and continue the conversation in a healthier way

Your next disagreement does not have to end the same way the last one did.

This week only, you can get access to the full workshop, our 5-Step Conflict Cycle Resolution Tool, and the workbook for just $17.

When you're ready, here are 3 ways we can help you...

1. Join the ​private ONE Family Facebook group​. Connect with others in the ONE Family who are strengthening their 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and more. - Tap Here
2. Don’t settle for a “logistics-only” marriage. Transform your marriage from one that is emotionally distant and sexually frustrated to one of deep connection and passion. - Tap Here Now​​
3. Work with Alisa One-on-One. If you'd like to work directly with Alisa to improve your marriage... just reply to this message and put "One-on-One" in the subject line... share a little about what's going on in your marriage and she'll get you all the details.

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