| Dear Carolyn: A close friend of mine is a huge people pleaser. I can tell she feels insecure about her friendships, even ours, and is constantly trying to “not be a burden.” I’ve tried to jokingly halt these comments and get her to realize that it is not at all the case, that being a burden to me and our other shared friends is not something she should worry about. Some of her tendencies also deeply annoy me. It feels hard to hang out casually because she will apologize if I get her a glass of water and will never help decide plans about dinner because she’s “super easy.” I’ve never taken it out on her, but there are times when this drives me a bit crazy and I can sense I’m turning cold on her, which I don’t want to do. I worry that calling out this behavior won’t necessarily do her any good, either. I think she needs to look at her actions and realize it on her own. This behavior has created some distance between us. Do I bring this up? Or do I just set boundaries so that I can stay un-annoyed while maintaining our close friendship? — Annoyed Answer this week’s reader question Here's your chance to channel your inner Carolyn Hax and respond to a reader question. | 
