The pre-work involves important choices:

• Am I willing to be wrong about the fact that I’m a person who doesn’t know how to do this?
• Am I open to feeling incompetent as I discover a new skill is possible, but I don’t know how to do it yet?
• Will I be resilient enough to recover if I try to do this and fail?
• Can I temporarily be an imposter, someone who acts like they know the skill, but doesn’t, not quite…
• Am I eager to be friends with the person who I’m going to become if I make this shift?

Skip these steps and you might as well not bother to begin.