| Dear Carolyn: How do you help someone who is experiencing cognitive changes if they can’t see — or don’t want to see — the changes that have been happening? My longtime partner has started to show signs of cognitive issues, I suspect potentially early chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE), based on a long history of head injuries and concussions. He’s 56, and the changes were initially subtle and easily attributed to simply getting older and/or his ADHD — memory issues, difficulty concentrating, etc. But in the past six months, I’ve seen impaired judgment (driving after drinking) and severe anger and aggression — parts of his personality I’ve never seen from him in the 10 years I’ve known him. I’ve told him I’m concerned and would like him to see a doctor, and he says he’s fine. That it’s just his ADHD and I’m overanxious. I know I can’t force him to have this addressed, and I recognize if he’s experiencing this at his age, then that is really scary, but I am truly concerned about his safety and that of others. (I have a great therapist, and we’ve talked about what happens if I get to the point where I don’t feel safe, but we are not there.) — Concerned | 
