Dear Eric: I’m asking for advice about one of my sisters, the fourth of five. Four years ago, my husband of 35 years unexpectedly died – he was gone within eight hours of entering the ER. It was traumatic for me. My large family of siblings showed up. At the time, the sister in question phoned and said she couldn’t come because her daughter was having her third child, but she would come in a month or so. Time passed and no visit.