| We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below. Hi, Carolyn: Our son is engaged to a wonderful young woman we love dearly. Her family is fun, warm and welcoming, and the couple truly bring out the best in each other. My husband and I couldn’t be more thrilled for them. And yet, now that the wedding date is set, I am racked with anxiety. The fiancée’s family is quite wealthy, and, well … my husband and I are definitely not. We’re both career public school teachers. We’re happy and make enough to get by, but we have next to no disposable income. We still have five more years of college loan payments and only a modest retirement account, and we’re still 10 to 15 years out from retirement. Her parents recently had a sit-down with the kids and told them they’d like to spend $75,000 on the wedding. They also said they’d like to invite my husband and me for a visit so we can all work out the details about who’s paying for what. I don’t know what to say or do. They are such genuinely nice people, and we really do want to contribute as much as possible, but there’s no way that we can come up with anything near that. Honestly, we’ll be lucky to scrape together even a few thousand dollars, and that fills me with bone-deep shame. He’s our only son. We love him so much but feel like bumpkins with bupkes to give them. What can we do? — Looming Wedding | 
