| Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I am at my wit’s end with my two adult daughters. They are both in their 30s, very capable, with great jobs and many wonderful qualities, but wildly depressed, and their personal lives are a mess. One of them has had an on-again, off-again relationship with a man who won’t commit. The other is in a many-years-long relationship with a wonderful man but SHE won’t commit, despite crying and claiming she wants a family and children. My sisters have adult children with their own families and children whom they spend holidays with, and it pains me to see my own daughters so stuck and to contemplate yet another year with my daughters of the same stuck-ness, and still no grandchildren or progress. What can I do or say that would help them (and me)? — Pained | 
