Hi Iza,
If setting boundaries were just about learning the right words, most of us would have figured it out by now.
But for many people, boundaries don't break down because of a lack of skill. They break down because saying no can feel loaded. Risky. Even disloyal.
That's because people-pleasing and boundary struggles are often rooted in trauma.
Not necessarily dramatic events, but the early experiences that taught you it was safer to go along, step up, or make yourself smaller to keep the peace.
Those patterns don't just live in your thoughts. They live in your nervous system.
That's exactly why I'm partnering with Dr. Frank Anderson, collaborator on The Body Keeps The Score and one of the world's leading trauma experts, for a special two-part Learning Lab: Beyond People-Pleasing: High-Functioning Codependency, Boundaries, and Self-Respect.
Together, Frank and I will explore why these patterns formed, how trauma shapes the way you relate to others, and what it actually takes to move toward greater self-respect without shutting down or blowing up the relationships that matter most.
This isn't about becoming harder or more rigid.
It's about finally understanding why boundaries have felt so hard, and how change can unfold in a way that feels grounded, realistic, and kind.
Part One of Beyond People-Pleasing is on March 30.
You can learn more and register here. | | | | | | |
All Love + Boundaries,
Terri
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