Well, hello there Iza,

We talk about almost everything now. Trauma, therapy, childhood, the things that happened to us, and the things we are still working through. Almost everything is fair game.

Except this one.

When the relationship with your mother is a painful one, the cultural agreement is that you keep it to yourself. Someone mentions a mother who was cruel, neglectful, or absent, and within a beat, somebody else is saying she did her best. She sacrificed for you. You only have one mother. If she has passed, do not speak ill of the dead.

The pushback comes from outside and from within. Most of the women I work with say these lines to themselves long before anyone else does. The shame around this specific dynamic is deeply ingrained, making an already painful experience feel incredibly isolating.

It is a heavy burden to carry, but you don't have to carry it in silence anymore.

​​​​​​​In today's blog, I talk about the reality of the mother wound, why society is so quick to invalidate this specific pain, and how you can finally give yourself the permission to acknowledge your truth and begin to heal.