|
May 9, 2026 
|
|
|
For Mother’s Day this year, the Well desk asked readers for their moms’ go-to sayings, and the responses were wise, moving and often funny. For me, the answer is a question. If I’m not feeling well, my mom will check in and ask, “Is it better, worse or the same?” She asks when I’m sick or hurt, or at times when she knows I’m feeling overwhelmed or sad — because in any difficult situation, she says, “better, worse or the same” are the only options. Choosing one doesn’t fix anything, really, but it gives the problem some proportion and helps me notice when I am on the mend or coming out of a funk. The question is so simple, but to me, it’s her wisdom and care. Below, you’ll find the collection of readers’ responses, and you can share advice from a mother figure in your life, too.
Also in this edition, play this week’s real estate game, test your literary trivia knowledge and explore how enjoying food may make someone eat less, not more. I’ll see you next weekend(er).
— Farah
Let’s keep the conversation going
Tell us your mom’s go-to saying, and see what others have to say, too.
 | Catherine Pearson Family and relationships reporter | I absolutely loved working on this story, but winnowing down the submissions was difficult! We received so many wonderful sayings that the piece could have easily been five times as long.
So let's keep it going: please share the words of wisdom your mom gave you and what they meant to you. |
|
|
| View all comments |
Thanks for reading. Was this newsletter forwarded to you? Sign up here, and be sure to check out more lifestyle stories from The Times.
This edition of The Weekender was edited by Farah Miller and Kellina Moore. Reach our team at weekender@nytimes.com.
|
|
 | You might also like the Good Advice newsletter. Our advice columnists help you navigate life's challenges and dilemmas, no matter how messy. Get it in your inbox |
|
|
