TDM 05.18.26—Yoloha Spon & OPEN Ed. (Monday)
+ It Didn’t Sound like Grooming: 5 Phrases that Overrode my Intuition. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ 

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Healthy love felt too quiet for me.

 

It was boring.

Something always felt like it was missing in stable and consistent relationships. I didn’t know why I was drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, but I was certain that the ones who pushed me away must be keepers.

I believed “nice” men were lame and the “bad boys” sparked my interest. Rebellious, unpredictable men were such a turn on for me. Their untamed nature was like a magnet, making me fall in love so quickly—so deeply.

Don’t even get me started on the push-and-pull dynamics, the endless situationships, and the on-again-off-again cycles. I loved them. Weird, right?

Ultimately, the pattern became obvious.

You don’t Choose your Partner; Your Nervous System Does.

You Picked: 

Last Monday's most-read article in The Mindful Life was Elyane's "classic" Elephant article, "When your Partner Becomes Someone Different."

 

"Change scares us in relationships. It translates into uncertainty, insecurity, and discomfort. It has often worried me and has threatened my own relationship many times—until I’ve realized that change is growth in disguise." ~ Elyane Youusef

Today's best stories.

 

I Didn’t Wait for the Diagnosis to Heal. I Healed my Way to the Diagnosis.

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"The system failed me. The doctor was late. The questions were wrong. The follow-up never came."

 

The Return: A Guide to Waking Up after a Hermit Phase.

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"If I could go back and tell myself anything during the long quiet of that hermit phase, it would be this. The stillness was not empty. Something was being built down there in the dark, in the roots, in the season that looked like nothing from the outside."

 
 

Psst—It's Almost Dad's Turn.

 

It's no secret our longtime love for Yoloha. And Daddy’s Day is just over a month away—think he’d be down for a new non-slip, eco-incredible cork mat to enhance his practice? We sure do. Go on and celebrate that guy (or any guy!) and get 15% off Yoloha with code EJLOVE.

 
 
 

Why Visualization Leaves You Feeling Stuck.

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"Visualization isn’t about convincing yourself that a future life exists. You can’t visualize yourself into a perfect life that sticks forever."

 
 

It Didn’t Sound like Grooming: 5 Phrases that Overrode my Intuition.

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"2. 'He’s really into you.' Translation: his desire matters more than your discomfort."

 
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