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Illustration by Jillian Tamaki
Willing Davidson
Senior editor and director of audio
In the summer of 2022, Amanda Petrusich was reporting a Profile of Metallica, whose heavy-metal anthems draw on the band members’ intimate familiarity with loss. They have battled addiction and tragedy—their former bassist Cliff Burton died in the band’s early years when a tour bus crashed. Their lyrical themes, she eventually wrote, “include death, despair, power, grief, and wrath.” One night, while she was working on the piece, her husband had two seizures and died. The year that followed, in which she and her thirteen-month-old daughter learned to survive the aftermath of catastrophe, is the subject of her remarkable—and remarkably inspiring—Personal History in this week’s issue.
In recent years, Petrusich has written long and intimate portraits of musicians, in which her keen and generous eye exposes the business and the genius of music-making—my favorite might be this Profile of Phish, which almost persuaded me to overcome my skepticism of jam bands and their damp-wool culture. But I first read her work in the early two-thousands, when she was writing short reviews for Pitchfork, a website that had the power to make or break the careers of indie-rock bands. Most of its writers were men, and some of them seemed to relish their power. Petrusich was rare not only for her gender but for the attention she paid to intention, for her desire to understand and to illuminate.
More than a decade later, I got the chance to edit her work, and I found that she brought the same generous curiosity to writing about people that she had brought to writing about their music. Now that she has turned to the ultimate subject—death (and, with it, life)—that curiosity persists. “Becoming a young widow was easily the most fascinating thing that has ever happened to me,” she writes. In the year after her husband’s death, “a sort of austere survival instinct kicked in.” The experience led her to look into the way that society and science view grief. She got in touch with the Center for Prolonged Grief, at Columbia University, and learned about novel treatments for the condition, including the center’s own six-part program. Then she discovered E.M.D.R., which combines talk therapy, exposure therapy, and bilateral stimulation—alternately activating both sides of the brain. In this piece, Petrusich recounts her experience with grief, and with the treatments that aim to make it just slightly tolerable.
Writing is a tough business. As an editor, I know that the most important thing I can do is to reassure writers that everything’s going to be all right. When Petrusich turned in this piece, I knew there was no reassurance that I could offer—except that she would provide consolation and hope to many, many readers.
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