Love Letter: Catfishing into … engagement?
Plus: The benefits (and complexities) of dating in midlife.
Love Letter
October 9, 2026

Victor Hugo once said, “Forty is the old age of youth; 50 is the youth of old age.”

That line inspired the name of a new show on HBO, “Youth,” about a divorcée navigating angsty kids, ailing parents and a full-time job, and a desire to date.

Women in midlife “often come to dating with a stronger sense of self,” Melinda Wenner Moyer writes. “In interviews, many women said they knew better what they wanted — and what they were not willing to tolerate.”

Read the full story below. Plus, learn about a middle-aged fiancé struggling to see a future, a book about an extraordinary sexual deception case and an episode of “The Opinions” about younger men seeking older women.

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